When you get mad, what do you do, blow up right? Most of us do, this is normal, although not the ideal way to deal with it, it still happens to the best of us. Another way to deal with it is through Self-Mastery, self-control.
What Is Self-Mastery?
Self-mastery is a series of processes that help you to take control of their life. In some ways, self-mastery is a perceived personality, which includes how others see that you. Working through self-mastery, you can help you to build a personality that you recognise as being your own. It gives you a sense of ease and a peace of mind. When it comes to self-mastering skills, it may seem hard to find them. One of the biggest reasons for this is that most people don’t even have a clue on what they are.
How Do You Build Self Mastery Skills?
The ways to build self-mastery skills depends on you.
Sometimes you have to make positive adjustments to retrain your mind, then you can make room for self-mastery development. You can take control of your life by probing into your own mind, to find the answers that help you develop self-mastery skills.
Use meditation to help you to focus, this will help you to be able to start digging and cleaning up the subliminal mind thoughts. Write each one down as you dig so you can work on the changes that need to be made for the future. Don’t let these thoughts control your digging, to stress you even more; stay focused until you reach the bottom. For a guide on meditation and help to choose the best methods for you, check out my helpful guide.
Set Your Goals!
By digging with a focused mind, making changes will be easier. When you write them down, this helps to bring the negative thoughts out and helps start the process of reprogramming. Once you’ve dug down and found them, write down goals along with the changes you need so you can turn them into positive gold thoughts. By setting goals, you’ll have something to aim for. Break your goals down into small, attainable goals. When you reach each goal, you’ll feel a lot more motivated to continue.
Read Over Your Goals.
Go over and reread your new thoughts often, this will help to keep your mind thinking positive. Every time something negative slips in while making your changes, stop and focus and try to rethink positively. By reminding yourself often of the goals you’ve decided to reach, you’ll be able to reprogram your mind and brain to act in a positive way.
Think Positively!
This is so important. Reprogramming yourself to think positive will help you to strengthen the effective conscious and self-development, which in turn will help you to gain success. When we relieve stress by focusing on each one separately with goals, we grow stronger in making better decisions with a winning attitude.
Allow Time
Don’t expect a miracle overnight when practicing meditation for growing in effective conscious and self-mastery skills. You need to give yourself time to grow and practice the skills. Try practising each day, set aside a part of the day when you will be able to focus solely on your thoughts. Perhaps at the end of each day, before you go to bed. This will also help sleep, as you clear your mind of any negativity that has occurred through the day.
You probably won’t notice any changes in your performance right way. Other people will notice and like the new person in you before you will. As you learn to focus and relax, your communication skills will increase, allowing you to carry on a conservation with skill and confidence. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel by giving your opinions with ease.
Everyone is Different!
Different methods work different ways on people what may work for me, may not work for you. This is when you’re going to have to sit down and find all the ways there is to be able to find the right method that is going to work for you. that you are going to overcome the problems. take it one day at a time and set goals.
Til next time,
Stay Safe, Stay Smiling!
Self-mastery has always been a holy grail for me, it is what I struggle with and aspire to in equal measure. Making it a clear goal is such a helpful tip, and it can really help in the moment, to remind you how you want to be, rather than just react habitually. Great post!
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Thanks Tania 🙂 clear and easy goals in the beginnimg help the most I’ve found. Setting goals that are too complex makes them so much harder to reach, only resulting in the good ol habit of giving up☺
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Self mastery can be quite hard to achieve but that being said, I love the idea of doing meditation to help!
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I agree. Everyday practice and setting small goals to begin with, it will become a lot easier to achieve. Meditating certainly helps to focus on your goals 🙂 Thanks for reading Ana
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Wonderful post. Meditation and writing down stuff that bothers ir hurts me has always been of great help. Thoughts take different shapes when you get them out there.
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Thanks Marta 🙂
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I agree with allowing time because after all is said and done, time heals everything.
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Very true, it does 🙂
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Amazing tips, I agree. Positivity is very important, negative mind will make negative results over and over no matter what. Setting goals and reading them is super helpful, most people think that is stupid but that could be pure motivation, they think they don’t need to write down plans or goals because “they know it well”, they are so wrong.
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Spot on, a lot of people do think its a waste of time, to me it saves time and helps me to focus on whats needed to be done. Thanks for reading Nicolas 🙂
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This is some good advice. I know I find myself on autopilot sometimes. It feels good to be back on track.
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Thanks Liz. It is always a better feeling. Sometimes even my autopilot runs out of juice lol
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Nice one, really awesome work and self help you gave here, thanks 4 sharing
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Most welcome Pospi, thanks for reading 🙂
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amazing post! thank you for this great advice and methods
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Most welcome! Thanks for reading 🙂
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I ike that these are some real, tangible tips on meditation. Understanding that it is different for everyone is key. Thanks for sharing!
Nina
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Most welcome Nina. I agree, what may work for one, may not work for others. Thanks for reading 🙂
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I’ve never meditated before, I definitely think it could be beneficial in many ways!
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It really does help Megan, I was of the mindset that I could manage, as such, without it. I found it helped me to focus a lot more clearer. Thanks for reading 🙂
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I strive for self-mastery in my daily life. Making it a clear goal is a great tip, and I think it will help me with making it a daily habit. Thank you for the insightful and well thought out post.
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Most welcome and thank you for reading. Best of luck in continuing your daily habit 🙂
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That’s correct, each one of us is different and what works for a friend might not work for us. I used to have a very short temper and I changed that by looking at things in a more positive light. I felt that my patience was also developed in the process.
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Well done Elizabeth! I had a pretty short fuse too but I found that once I retrained my way of thinking, I also became a lot more patient. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Self control is very important when we are mad at something, I love the way you provide solutions to such problem.
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It certainly is. Thanks Inyene 🙂
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Lovely post and yes making plans of work for every single day is the key to success or a better life coupled with a positive attitude
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Exactly right! Thanks 🙂
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Self mastery is the most important thing to be successful and happy. Nice post 🙂
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I couldn’t agree with you more. Thanks 🙂
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Such helpful strategies to increase your self-mastery! Positive thinking is essential! 🙂
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I agree. Be positive to see positive 🙂
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I so need to get better at this!! I agree with all of this, control of things makes a huge difference in the course of your life.
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I hope some of these strategies can help you Jenny. It certainly does 🙂Thanks for reading
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I like what do you write Really , However ” Real success is success with self . It’s not in having things , but in having mastery , having victory over self ”
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Thankyou. Spot on!🙂
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Setting goals is always important and so it is in self-mastery. There’re so much to learn and practise, i guess it’s a life long journey.
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They are indeed. Thanks for reading 🙂
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This is a very good post! Self-mastery and meditation are truly important to curing a break down/freak out. I discovered that many of my “anger attacks” as I called them turned out to be caused panic from anxiety attacks. Now I can identify (most of the time) when it’s time to take a time out and breathe.
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Thanks Daisy. I’m glad you can identify when the breaks needed. Best of luck continuing to be able to do so 🙂
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Self-Mastery is so important but also difficult. It is something we should all try to achieve.
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It is Carrie and with practice it does become easier. Meditation helped me a lot with it.
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Meditating is probably one of the best ways to get to know yourself better. It’s a great way to reflect on the things that have happened and the things that you want to change. I love the idea of self-mastery, it will improve your outlook in life completely and make you feel great about yourself.
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I agree Amanda. It has been the key tool for me, and I use it often. Hopefully more will start to use meditation, if need be, and see the great benefits to it too. Thanks for reading 🙂
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Self mastery sounds awesome, but very difficult to achieve will probably take years. Will love to attempt though.
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It is definitely awesome Anna-Marie and with practice it can be achieved. If you give it a go I wish you the best amd I’d love to hear how you go with it. Thanks for reading🙂
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